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Heather Jones is an enthusiastic businesswoman, wife and mother who recently took ownership of the company Personal Best Seminars. Her charismatic wit never fails to bring forth joy and smiles from those around her. She values structure and is ever so purposeful in both her personal and professional life.

After attending its Level 1, 2 and 3 courses from 2006-2007, she experienced a dramatic shift in her life – going from a place of feeling lost and lonely to one of feeling empowered and peaceful.

Today, Heather is the Owner, CEO and Lead Facilitator with Personal Best Seminars. She uses her non-judgmental approach to teaching these foundational principles, that could be considered life’s owner manual, to support others in navigating positive outcomes.

Her powerful personality gives those in attendance a structured yet caring approach when it comes to navigating life’s complicated twists and turns. With her experience comes understanding that oftentimes you have to take a few steps back before you can take leaps forward. Overall Heather is passionate about helping others recognize their potential as individuals while having fun along the way! Her witty yet structured personality makes her both a delight to be around and inspirational leader within the business world.

Heather's Most Recent Blog Posts

Navigating through the darkness of grooming was like walking through a meticulously laid minefield where every step was orchestrated, yet appeared random.

Unveiling the Unconscious: My Grooming Experience

May 22, 20246 min read

Resilience in the Face of Darkness: My Grooming & Abuse Experience

Trigger Warning: This blog post includes detailed personal anecdotes and reflections on experiences with sexual abuse, which may be triggering to survivors or individuals with related trauma. Reader discretion is advised. If you need support at any time, please contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), reach out to RAINN, or text “HELLO” to the Crisis Text Line at 741741.

Navigating through the darkness of grooming was like walking through a meticulously laid minefield where every step was orchestrated, yet appeared random. It was a slow erosion of my boundaries under the guise of trust and secrecy.

At 23 years old, I found myself caught in the web of someone who seemed to understand and accept me. It was during this impressionable period that I encountered my abuser—a person who presented himself as a mentor, a boss, and confidant but turned out to be anything but.

The Unconscious Calculus of Grooming

The process was insidious. It began with the building of trust, where my abuser claimed to be my secret keeper, only to demand my silence in return. He created a pact between us, one that felt unique and important. But it was a trap, a series of "tests" to probe how far he could push before I drew the line—if I even had a line to draw.

Abusers often look for someone without personal boundaries, making it easier for them to exert control. Reflecting back, the grooming felt unconscious on my part yet was so calculating on his.

I was isolated skillfully—the other assistant at work, a potential ally, was pushed out, leaving me alone with my abuser. He flattered me, commented on my physical appearance, and ensured I had preferred shifts, reinforcing a sense of specialness.

But the compliments and favoritism gave way to manipulation. His personal problems and dissatisfaction at home became my burden to carry. Gaslighting was his tool, an attempt to invalidate my experiences and emotions while elevating his own.

The Silent Battles and Mental Scars

The words I lay down on this page come from a place of vulnerability, etched with the resilience that has grown within me over time. What unfolded in the darker chapters of my life was never my fault, yet it is an all too common tale. Overcoming grooming, that meticulous process of manipulation and betrayal, is a miracle that some do not achieve. But I am here to say you can do it, and you are not alone.

The environment was one that many would consider safe – a show home, a workplace. Yet it was within these walls that innocence was tested by a trusted colleague, I will call him my boss. With hours spent alone, he preyed on my naivety, wielding it against me while discussing topics I had never dared to explore. Despite the shame that washed over me, the fear of losing my job, my place, compelled me to fit in, to belong.

Sexual comments, personal questions about my relationships, and subtle touches tested my comfort and consent. Emotional manipulation took a heavy toll, affirming that my worth was conditional on my silence and compliance. The idea of being threatened with exposure trapped me further, cementing my silence.

Inside, I battled shame and terror, while outwardly, I struggled to maintain an air of nonchalance. When my boss exposed himself with a twisted sense of gratification, claiming excitement at my mere presence, I felt captive within my own body. The abuse morphed into something far more sinister over the months that followed. Each shift, he chipped away at the person I once knew, leaving me trapped and hopelessly broken.

During this time, I was cloaked in depression and loneliness. I lost myself, contemplating final escapes from the agony. My boyfriend (the co-worker, from previous blog posts) and I's relationship didn't make sense, however it wasn't my priority to figure it out during this time. My job, a source of pride for my family and myself, became the arena of my exploitation. The sense of being trapped was compounded by the need to maintain my financial independence—it felt like there was no escape.

At that time, my boyfriend was the light that pierced through the darkness. His love and protection were the beacons that guided me back to myself, day by day, strength by strength. My resilience was not built in isolation but forged through this unwavering support system. Trust – a concept brutally damaged – slowly began to stitch itself back together through the compassion and understanding of the one person I could not hide my pain from.

Reflecting back now, this narrative isn't just mine but echoes the voices of many silenced by fear and manipulation. The process of rebuilding oneself is formidable, piecing together fragments of trust and self-worth that abuse had callously torn apart.

Breaking the Silence

It's taken years to acknowledge the full impact of what happened—to both recognize it and call it by its name: grooming and abuse. The bond I thought I had with my abuser was nothing but a carefully crafted illusion to facilitate abuse.

It was a battle, but one I eventually found strength in confronting. Stories like mine aren't just isolated anecdotes; they form a chorus that warns of the dangers lurking within seemingly harmless interactions.

If you or someone you know is experiencing grooming or any form of abuse, I urge you to break the silence. Report grooming and abusive behaviour—your voice can be the catalyst that stops the cycle and initiates healing.

"Break the Silence: Report Grooming Behavior"

By sharing my story, I stand in solidarity with survivors and offer a stark reminder of the vigilance required to protect oneself. Silence only serves the abuser. Speak out. Get help. You are not alone in this fight.

The Next Chapter - My Inspiration for a New Beginning.

Over the next couple of years, my story unfolds positively. I’m excited to share my healing journey with you, from where I started to where I am now. Healing is a non-linear process, and there were many times I thought I had "arrived," only to realize I hadn’t. The most significant pivot in my life came with the birth of my son. This pivotal moment, documented in this post, became a powerful source of motivation for me. Both my son and my career have been and continue to be the driving forces behind my perseverance through tears and pain, helping me shed the parts of myself that were never truly me. As Paul Coelho says in my favorite book, The Alchemist, “Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.”

I hope my story inspires you to embark on your own journey of self-discovery and healing. If I can navigate through the ups and downs to find joy and purpose, so can you. Join me as I continue to unfold this path, and let’s believe together in the power of THE NEXT CHAPTER.

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